“Let’s celebrate our frustrations” I thought, as I texted an invite for a gin + Zoom sesh with my besties in Adelaide.
Like, what a concept?!
A life without frustration sounds lovely, drama-free in fact, but it also sounds boring. I imagined my life without frustration… It felt mediocre.
I’m definitely not a same shit different day kind of woman. I’m also not one to accept the often ingrained belief that ‘everyone and the universe is out to get me” or that life’s frustrations are some kind of unlucky punishment or “just how it is”. Instead, accept that life needs a little frustration and that it is beautiful. It does not need to be this crazy and dramatic event.
There’s this heart-opening liberation I feel by repositioning my frustrations as something worthy of celebration vs helpless and hopeless acceptance. The fact you have a mind that you can even recognise and experience frustration in the first place is pretty amazing. From the little frustrations that subside within moments, to the extreme full body visceral stress response where it can take you hours, days or even weeks to process… while messy, it’s all designed to help us grow by allowing us to desire something different (and hopefully better).
Accepting and journeying through your frustrations with grace and minimal drama takes a great deal of self awareness. Do you remember your last major bout of frustration? Once the light, previously at the end of the tunnel finally surrounded you and hindsight kicked in, did you deem your experience as a success? Was the outcome better than the negative frustration-soaked inner voice was telling you at the start? Did it feel like you’d conquered something great?
Now we have the actual, physical proof we previously lacked, it now feels easier. We now know what we didn’t know then – that we CAN get through it. It was merely the lack of confidence in our ability to do so that caused the frustration in the first place.
Without frustration, what would cause one to desire change? Without frustration, there’s nothing to serve as a mechanism that inspires progress, in any area of business, health and life. What else would cause you to ask questions and be a catalyst for growth? Embracing frustration forces you to go into solution mode… “How Do I Solve This Issue?” and that’s the key.
Now over to you!
What’s one big, annoying frustration that you’d like to start to celebrate?
Tell me about it in the comments below!
Until we meet again, Engage Everything.